The 4D Phases of Your Reaction Towards Unwanted Changes

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How do you actually react to those unwanted changes you have in life?

Here's what I think would be the phases that you go through once the almighty unwanted changes are right at your doorstep.
Disclaimer: This post is purely based on my personal opinions.

1. Denial

"Oh, you gotta be kidding me. Denial? No it is not. Everything is fine, everything is gonna be fixed like how they've always been. Well you know thesedays this kind of problem isn't that simple anymore, right? There must be something missing here and I need to find it. Everything's actually fine."

No, it is not. You know something is bothering you, but you're either too afraid to deal with it, or you just haven't fully realized that something is changing, and that change is not something you favor.

2. Disorientation

"What am I doing? Did I do this wrong? Did I do anything wrong at all? What should I focus on? Why is this not working? Wait.. what?"
When a change happens, and it has started bothering you even more, everything is a distraction. You can't focus. You're somehow reacting to this change more spontaneously with all the defense you have at the moment. And when you have done all you can and it's not working well, you finally realize that this is really happening. Moving on to the next phase.

3. Depression

" I don't know what to do anymore. I have tried everything. I never expected this. I shouldn't have done that. I cannot deal with this anymore. What should I do to make this right? Why is everything different now?"
This is usually the phase where you're letting all of your feelings out towards the unwanted change. You know that this is really happening. It's absorbing all of your positive energy all at once. One or two things might happen, like self-blaming, or letting your angst out on others. You desperately want to stop that change but you're running out of time, energy, and ideas. What's the worst thing that can happen? If you cannot go through this phase easily (usually it's not because you can't, you just don't want to. It's so comfortable being all gloomy and diving into the depth of your agony. Right?) you will, yes you will, ruin yourself even more.

4. Dealing with it

"Okay, I got it. I did the right things, and I also did the wrong things. I have probably done my best, but change is inevitable. I have to embrace the NOW, and I know everything's always gonna change eventually. By that time, I should be ready for it. I should be ready to accept every single change that will happen in my life."
There you have it. Once you're ready to accept that change, and not to just accept it, but also to embrace it, you'll become more positive towards others and yourself. Everything really happens for a reason, or many reasons. One time it doesn't make you feel good, and another time it makes you feel damn good. Fair enough?

These phases of reaction are always there, and the length of each phase varies. You can choose to be in denial forever, or let yourself burn in anger, or try a more positive approach.

Here's the ugly truth.
You will go through these phases again, and again, and again. It never stops.
But the more you've gone through it, the stronger you have become, supposedly.

And it depends on how much you love your life. It is YOUR life after all, not anyone else's.

This is what I want to believe.
How about you?

Be kind to one another. See ya in my next post.

What are YOU gonna do after graduation?

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"Are you planning to take master's degree afterwards?"
"How are you? Have you got a job yet?"
"Do you think I should go for the Master's degree scholarship or should I find a job instead?"

.. and so on, and so on.

Those questions above are every year's questions of the year for fresh graduates. I believe all of my friends who are graduating (or have just graduated) have got these questions asked to them a zillion times. They come from your friends, parents, relatives (you know, the countless aunts and uncles, the older cousins) or your mom's friends.. and even neighbours! Suddenly your graduation, your future, has become everyone's number one concern.

So, how do you react to them?

Do you become as excited about the 'life-after-graduation' as they do? Are you becoming afraid of stepping into the real world? Or instead, do you get so annoyed that you use "We'll see" as an answer template?

Honestly, I was contemplating on what I want to do with my life after graduation, or at least after I have finished my thesis defense. I surely have learned a lot from the thesis writing process, yet I did not have the time to focus on what's next while I was writing my thesis. Most of the time I'm a person who is spontaneous and impulsive at times, which does not help when it comes to long-term life planning.

Based on this struggle, I have since then asked a lot of people I know the very same questions: to my friends, parents, uncles, aunts, cousins, anyone I could ask, to get their opinions on this matter. Now, although I still find these questions rather daunting, I know there are several things every fresh graduate can do after they have finished their study. So, if you are a fresh graduate, you might want to consider some of these options worth-considering that I have compiled.

1. First, you can find a job. It's very easy, right?

Now before you stop reading, let me make this clear. Finding a job is easy, there are tons of jobs that you can get, and there are also companies who would hire you just because they need people to work for them. 

So finding a job is actually easy, but finding a job that fits you is hard. Chances are, it's even harder because you don't know what you really want, YET. That's why after applying for some random jobs, none of them gave you a satisfying result. 

My dad told me that back in his days, applying for jobs was A LOT harder. They had to write their own CV and application letter with their hands, and the companies were also harder to approach because there was no internet at the time (they had to buy the newspapers and look for job vacancies there), and the companies did not pass any company brochures or came to any job fair. Job fair did not even exist back then. So he said "becoming jobless for around 6 months is totally normal because it takes time to find a job you want".

"Six months? Are you crazy? All of my friends would have got a job if I waited that long!" You might think. But not like in old days, our life is much easier now. We have internet to find almost anything, and the companies actively reach out to the students as early as on their first semester of college. It doesn't need to take 6 months to actually get a job. But we could probably use the time to understand what we want to do.

I would rather think carefully before I land my first job than getting the job I don't really want ASAP just because of, you know, peer pressure. Do you agree?

Don't take any job that you're not sure of. Take your time.

2. Take A Master's Degree (or a Diploma, or any other degree you want)

There are a lot of reasons why you should take a Master's degree right after you get your Bachelor's degree. You probably want to pursue a scholarship opportunity to study abroad (which would probably not come twice), or maybe you are already sure of what you want to study.

I have friends who are still doubtful about whether she/he's going to take a Master's degree directly or get a job experience first. Nowadays, we all try to solve our problems by Googling it. But if you searched about this so-called-dilemma, you would find too many of pros and cons about getting a Master's degree.

If you are one of those who are having this dilemma, I don't have a good answer to solve your problem, but I'll share my opinion with you. If you ask me whether I want to take a Master's degree, I would say "Yes, I want to". But am I taking it right after I graduate? No. Because first, I am not sure enough of the major for my Master's degree. Therefore, I have decided to get a job first, and when I am sure that I want to build a career in a certain field, I will pursue my Master's Degree. This way, I am taking the major I want with more confidence. I also have several personal considerations which have led me to that decision. How about you? It is your call.

Do not use the articles you find on the internet as your guide. They are made by people, and different people have different kinds of opinion because they have their own circumstances. You may use them as references, as some of them are telling their facts, but most of them are purely subjective opinions based on their own experiences. Make a decision based on your circumstances and your own considerations. 

3. Do Cool Internships!

This could be a choice if you felt like you need more working experience before getting a real job. Internships could even get you a full-time job afterwards, because you get to be evaluated for your performance, not only from your short resume and a 15-minute interview. You may have graduated, but getting an internship to warm you up before landing a job would not hurt. Instead, it could give you time to build your strategy and preparation to get the job that you aim for.

Good luck!

4. Make your own awesome thing.

I also have friends who are passionate to become an entrepreneur. Most of my friends are coming from Computer Science major, so there are a lot of them who are planning to build an IT start up after they graduate. I find them to be very passionate and independent. I also know some who have great values for their own start-ups. The thing is, their ultimate goal is not to become successful. Their goal is to become useful, to make something that creates huge positive impact to people.

It's amazing how you can build something with values you don't only keep. I think that's an example of trusting your own values, living them, and making them happen.

Do you have values and dreams that you wish to come to life? Entrepreneurship might be the right choice for you.

5. Become the super housewife!

Hey, I'm not kidding. This probably works for the ladies. If you feel like you want to be the ultimate, best housewife in the world and you are supported by your parents and your future husband, why not jump directly into practice? You will have plenty of time to master your skills in cooking, taking care of households, and later, if you have kids, you are going to be the full time mom every child wishes they had. What is more, instead of working from 9-5, you can start your own home business. What could be more exciting than being able to arrange your own working hours and spend plenty of quality time with your kids?

There are a lot of things you could do after you graduate, and when it comes to making the decision, you sure could have a lot of fears to overcome. To answer that, I will quote what Mahatma Gandhi said.

"Freedom is not worth having if it does not include the freedom to make mistakes".

We will ALWAYS make mistakes no matter which path we take, but letting those mistakes bring you down is only one of the life choices you can take.

This is dedicated to all fresh graduates. May your next life stages be blessed.

A Few Life Lessons I've Got from Writing Thesis

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For the last 2 weeks me and my fellow thesis fighters were trying to finish our thesis. And so we submitted our thesis 2 days ago. Finally!

I wanted to tell you all the details of how we survived the wrath of thesis (technically, not yet because I haven't gone through my thesis defense, but i think thesis submission counts as one phase of "The Wrath of Thesis"). But then I figured that it would be a lot more interesting if I also share the life lessons I got from this 6-month torture process of thesis writing.

 Just so you know, the life lessons I have got are worth it.

1. Setting a clear goal

My thesis would have been messed up if we (me and my thesis group) did not have any clear goal apart of getting our thesis done. We aimed to create a useful application, to learn as much as we could in the process, and to give our all until the thesis defense day comes. We have made a lot of decisions based on that goal, like deciding our thesis topic and choosing the lecturer who gives us guidance, as a start. Without that clear goal we would have got  lost in the process.

I realize that it works the same way in life. When you're not sure what you're fighting for and why you're doing what you're doing, you would not be able to do it right. Don't do it at all if you don't mean it.

2. Taking challenges one step at a time

In writing thesis, you are required to have the eye for details, even if you really don't. That's what happened to me. It seems that there's always gonna be another mistake or misplacement and another numbers of imperfection. I have to face so many challenges that sometimes I feel overwhelmed. 

But that's life too. You will never get rid of all problems. Life is not problem-free (here i am stating the obvious). What we can do instead is facing all of them patiently. Don't be afraid to take the steps. 

I have come to a realize that getting started is often the hardest part, but when we decide to just deal with it and start working, it will make us feel a lot better because we can see the progress we have. That content feeling drives us to continue with our work and perform better.

3. Staying out of unnecessary rage

Frustration would get its grip on me when things don't happen as I expected, or when I couldn't get an approval I had thought I deserved (yes, I am talking about bunch of revisions here).

In life we would be tempted to complain and complain whenever we don't get the things we want to get. Believe me (and believe yourself), you'll get there. What would make it harder for you to get what you want is unnecessary amount of rage and complaints. It really does nothing but getting in your way of achieving your goals.

4. Small things matter

Let me tell you, the process of writing thesis has really taught me a lot about life. In my post last month,  I have discussed about how small things matter but we don't have to sweat over every small stuff. In this particular case (i mean writing thesis), it clearly shows how small things really matter. 

I watched a group's thesis defense a few days ago, and it was hard to watch because they did not pay attention on small things they should know, as simple as the background of their work.

Same thing goes with your life. How can you create big things if you cannot even prove that you can handle the small things?

If we don't really care about small things and decide to just leave them there, it means we're not ready to take over the big stuff. Don't even try. Everything starts small, and when it turns big, it doesn't leave the small things behind to keep growing.

5. Team work

While this "thesis team" thing doesn't make sense to a lot of other universities and faculties (Some have said that working on thesis in a team just makes it a lot worse and harder), it's also something that i am actually grateful for. Writing thesis in a team has taught me about the importance of team work. Another obvious statement, right? But it's a lot trickier than it sounds. I have seen some friendships and relationships end during team thesis writing, and I am not joking. Maintaining relationships under the pressure of thesis are challenging.

Working in a team with 2 friends of mine has taught me a lot of things about myself. From one person, I learned about how a great learning habit is very positively impactful, from another I learned about how dealing with challenges is best done by getting started right away and staying focused. I'm sure it's no coincidence that I ended up being in the thesis team with them, why? Because these qualities are exactly the things I still need to improve.

Both of them also have different personalities from mine, and I learned to work by understanding how they work, so we can work together. The dynamic of a team is a life simulation. No matter what, we always have to deal with different kinds of people.

So, those are the 5 life lessons that I have got only from writing a thesis. How about you? Do you have your own ideas of how thesis writing changed your perspectives, or perhaps, changed your life?

Until next time.

It's NOT my fault! (Or is it?)

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"That is not my fault! You were the one who used it recently!"

"No, you were! Remember when you said you wanted to borrow it then I gave it to you?"

"Oh, come on, guys. Where's my scientific calculator? I need it NOW."

Sounds familiar?

Well it should be, more or less. There are times when we think that we're not at fault on something, because someone deserves the blame more than you do. And it's okay, knowing that all of us are human beings who don't like to be blamed even when it's really our fault.

Even apologizing is not an easy thing, don't you think? I find myself to be quite bad at apologizing when I completely accept that it is my fault. Here's why:

1. I'm afraid of rejection

Really. What scares you more than apologizing and get rejected immediately? The rejection itself is very frightening. But some people even have a big enough ego to get angry at the rejection, and not feel bad about it at all. (The power of ego )

2. What happens after the rejection

When we apologize for our faults, it's because : First, you feel bad about it, you might have hurt the other person's feelings. Why do you care? Because you don't only care about the person, but you also care about the relationship that you have. Whether it's your friends, bf/gf, family, boss, and etc. If the apology wasn't accepted, the most potential thing that could happen next is your relationship, being ruined.

But what if "your" fault.. is not yours?

No, don't react directly by pointing your finger towards either the one who accused you or the one whom you think deserves the blame, and yell at them.

You have to admit that sometimes, it just doesn't work.

Look at the situation, is it worth it? Are you losing your job because of it? If it is, you might as well fight for it. But when it's now only about you, and your big fat ego,  I'm suggesting you to think twice, or thrice, before you react.

Here are a few situations for you to consider.

1.  You're "sure"(i mean, not so sure) that you weren't the last person who used your mom's hair dryer. But now it's broken. The fact that your sister used to play around with it makes you want to blame her instead of admitting that it was probably your fault.

2. You are very sure that you put your stuff on the dining table, but now it's gone. Your mom's blaming your carelessness and bad habit of putting your stuff everywhere. You do know that your mom also has this bad habit of collecting random stuff she finds at home, automatically put them in her room/ her closet, and forget about it. Then when you try to search for your stuff. Voila! It's in your mom's closet.

How would you react to those situations?

When I was younger, I'd most likely blame someone else, not me. I'd try my best to get out of trouble or at least fulfill me ego with the "innocent" status. I'd debate, yell, and argue for that "Okay it's not your fault" thing.

Now, as I'm growing up, like I have mentioned before, it doesn't always work. I will not always get my "Innocent" status or feel relieved after I prove myself to be right.

Instead, I look at the situations like those above and consider whether it's worth fighting for or if I should just give in and take the responsibility.

So, here's what I apply.

First, if I'm not really sure that I'm 100% correct and innocent, either because I don't completely remember or my conscience is telling me that I have this tiny bit of a mistake, I would at least not blame someone else and insist about it. (Got it? Because it's my fault, too)

Secondly, If my mom forgot that she was the one who took my stuff and stored it in her closet / her room because she didn't want me to lose them, was she really at fault? She did it for me anyway. It was annoying at first (because she blamed me for what she did, for me), but I started perceiving it differently, more into the positive side.

The point is, I think we don't have to always blame people for the mistakes they have done. Sometimes it's better to take the blame instead.

I know it sounds crazy,but really,

Life is not just about how right or wrong we are. It's also how we adapt to situations and nurture relationships.

What do I know about life, right? I just turned 21. But those are just my thoughts.

What do you think?

Assumptions

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Do you create a lot of assumptions every day?

I like to call an assumption as "spontaneous nature of judgment". As human beings, we like to anticipate the things before they happen. But the thing is, we know that it's not always gonna happen.

Assumptions never really come from in-depth research. You know what I'm saying?
Creating assumptions is probably one of the easiest thing to do. And probably you don't even realize when you're doing so.

But assumptions are not only about the upcoming events that could happen. Assumptions could also be about what others thinking and feeling towards anything. For some reasons, the "assumptions mode" would be easily switched on when it has something to do with yourself. Your so-called intuitions start wandering inside your mind, telling you to do this and do that. Then when it finally reaches your feelings, God knows what you're gonna do afterwards. Assumptions are SO strong that it urges you to do what it wants you to do, and feel what it wants you to feel.

Assumptions are dangerous, though.

Remember Romeo and Juliet? Now that's an easy example of how one terrible mistake could come from an assumption. 

Sometimes, good deeds or surprises come from correct assumptions though.

Still, we would never have perfectly correct assumptions in our life. 

One thing to keep in mind is, too much is never a good thing.

So don't rely too much on your assumptions, but don't stop assuming as well.

Be careful with your assumptions, buddy. It could do harm to you and those around you.

Kenapa reuni bukan ide yang bagus?

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Let's begin the new year with old memories. 

Ya, rasanya di awal tahun 2014 ini saya menghabiskan waktu lebih banyak untuk bertemu kembali dengan teman-teman di masa sekolah. Dua minggu berturut-turut saya datang ke acara yang biasa kita sebut "reuni". 

Kalau anda yang membaca post ini mengenal saya dengan baik, pasti tidak akan heran kalau saya mengatakan bahwa kehadiran saya di pertemuan-pertemuan reuni ini sama sekali tidak direncanakan, alias spontan. Pada dua minggu terakhir saya menghadiri dua macam reuni. Yang pertama adalah reuni kecil berempat dengan teman-teman satu tim basket SMP saya, dan yang kedua adalah reuni SD.

"Apa? Reuni sekolah dasar? Nggak reuni taman kanak-kanak aja sekalian?"

Benar, anda nggak salah baca. Reuni sekolah dasar. 

Tetapi dua reuni yang saya hadiri ini esensinya sangat, sangat berbeda.

Reuni saya dengan teman-teman SMP saya diisi dengan kegiatan catching up, berhubung anggotanya semuanya perempuan, anda bisa bayangkan sendiri apa topik yang dibicarakan. Mulai dari kabar teman-teman SMP lainnya, kehidupan kuliah, kerja, dan tentunya, percintaan. It was a nice meet-up. Dan tentunya nyaman-nyaman saja. Sambil menikmati seporsi nasi putih hangat dan dua drumstick ayam di Chicken BonChon (tanpa bermaksud promosi atau apa, ayamnya memang enak sih), dengan lancar saya ngobrol bersama teman-teman saya yang sudah semakin cantik-cantik. Mengingat kebersamaan kami di saat bermain basket bersama, baru ingat seberapa lusuh dan gosong terbakar matahari kami berempat. Semacam anak layangan.

Nah, reuni semacam itu, sangat berbeda dengan reuni yang selanjutnya saya hadiri, yaitu reuni sekolah dasar.

Coba anda bayangkan, saya sudah sekitar 10 tahun tidak bertemu dengan orang-orang yang bersekolah di SD saya ini. Sebetulnya sebelumnya sudah ada 2 kali reuni SD yang diadakan, hanya saja waktu itu saya masih lugu dan tidak tahu jalan.

Reuni SD ini diinisiasikan oleh seorang teman SD saya yang juga merupakan teman SMA saya, jadi bisa dibilang cukup mudah untuk bertanya soal reuni tersebut. Begitu melihat undangan untuk menghadiri event di Facebook, langsung saya pikiran saya dipenuhi dengan memori dan kenangan di masa SD.

Blur dan remang-remang, ya kan? I mean, memangnya memori berkesan apa sih yang bisa diingat waktu zaman-zaman SD? Buat saya sih, SD berlalu sedemikian cepatnya sampai saya nggak terlalu ingat apa hal-hal menarik yang terjadi.

Tapi saya penasaran sih, ingin melihat apakah orang-orang ini sudah berubah atau belum penampilannya. Apakah ada yang saya tidak ingat? Apakah ada yang masih ingat saya? Seketika hal yang paling saya takutkan adalah : merasa canggung saat reuni. 

"Gimana kalau ga ada yang inget gw?" 

"Gimana kalau ga ada yang tertarik ngobrol sama gw?"

dan seterusnya.

Setelah mengumpulkan segenap hasrat ingin bertemu dan bertegur sapa setelah sekian lama, akhirnya saya memutuskan untuk menghubungi sang bandar (maksudnya yang mengadakan acara reuni tersebut) dan mengatakan "Yes, I'm in!".

Guess what? I had a really great time.

Ternyata banyak hal yang saya sudah lupa, dan saya bisa ingat lagi berkat memori teman-teman saya dijadikan satu. Menertawakan hal-hal konyol seperti "Eh, waktu itu lu punya geng namanya Fenomena kan ya?" atau "Eh iya ya waktu itu kan si A mau nembak si B terus mereka kejar-kejaran dari lantai satu sampe lantai dua" atau "Ya ampun iya waktu itu gue ngerobek seragamnya si C karena main polisi-maling" dan "Hahaha ternyata lu masih aja suka nyisirin poni!", sangat seru.

Nggak nyesel, mau menyempatkan waktu untuk duduk sejenak bareng teman-teman yang mungkin saat SD dulu nggak terlalu dekat, but we do have the same memories. Di benak saya, "Hmm, lain kali reuninya harus lebih rame.".

Tapi, seperti judul yang saya buat di atas, ada hal-hal yang menjadikan reuni bukan ide yang bagus.

1. Tidak punya uang.

Jelas, reuni butuh uang, paling nggak untuk beli minuman. Kalau anda sedang ingin berhemat dan menurut anda reuni itu bahkan worthnya tidak setara dengan segelas es teh manis, reunion is not a good idea.

2. Dibenci semua orang.

Sebuah reuni pastinya mengingat kenangan di masa lalu. Tapi kalau di masa lalu yang anda lakukan adalah menambah musuh, bukan menambah teman, ada dua pilihan hal yang bisa anda lakukan. Yang pertama adalah mohon maaf lahir batin di acara reuni tersebut. Yang kedua, mungkin bisa pass aja reuninya.

3. Ada mantan yang tidak mau anda temui.

Nah, kalau tidak mau reuni anda rusak karena ke-awkward-an yang terjadi, sebenarnya sih bisa saja anda memilih untuk ngobrol dengan teman-teman tertentu saja. Tapi ingat, hampir pasti hukumnya, paling tidak ada satu saja teman anda yang bilang "Eh dulu kan lu pacaran sama dia ya ha ha ha ha". Terus rame deh. Jreng jeng.

4. Tidak ada yang kenal atau ingat anda

Asik tidaknya reuni tidak cuma tergantung seberapa awareness anda terhadap eksistensi anda sendiri, tapi juga awareness orang lain terhadap anda. Kalau anda merasa ingat semua teman-teman anda, jangan senang dulu. Sebaiknya hal tersebut berlaku sebaliknya.

5. Anda tidak suka keramaian

Kalau sebelum anda datang ke reuni yang anda lakukan adalah berdoa supaya reuninya tidak ada yang datang, sepertinya reuni bukan pilihan yang tepat bagi anda. Mutlak hukumnya.

Jadi, karena sebab-sebab di ataslah kenapa menurut saya tidak selamanya reuni merupakan ide yang baik.
Pikir dulu sebelum datang ke reuni ya, readers.

Momen

Hidup berjalan terasa cepat sekali. Sepertinya baru kemarin saya mengikuti masa orientasi sekolah SMA. Sepertinya baru kemarin saya mengikuti orientasi mahasiswa baru. Sepertinya baru kemarin .... ah sudahlah.

Saya dulu bukan siapa-siapa, dan mungkin sekarang saya juga belum jadi siapa-siapa. Tapi saya belajar, saya gagal, saya sukses, saya jatuh cinta, saya patah hati, saya bertemu teman-teman terbaik di saat terburuk, dan saya juga pernah kehilangan yang saya percaya.

Tapi di tengah-tengah waktu yang sedang berlari cepat ini lah,

Saya jadi sadar, tidak ada yang abadi di dunia ini.

Saat saya bertemu anda, mungkin kita bisa berteman.

Bisa berteman baik, berteman biasa saja, atau sekedar bertemu di tengah rutinitas yang hiruk pikuk.

Mungkin arti saya sedikit untuk anda, mungkin arti anda banyak untuk saya.

Mungkin anda keluarga saya, teman baik saya, kenalan saya, orang yang saya hormati, orang yang kebetulan duduk di depan saya saat saya menggunakan kendaraan umum, orang yang berdiri di samping saya saat saya naik bis. Anda bisa jadi siapa saja.

Setiap saya sadar keberadaan anda, dan anda sadar keberadaan saya, terjadilah hal yang saya sebut momen.

Momen yang tidak akan terulang lagi. Tidak pada waktu, tempat, dan situasi yang sama. 

Kalau pun terdapat momen selanjutnya, yang menghubungkan saya dan anda, bisa jadi hanya tempatnya yang sama. Bagaimana dengan situasi yang sama? Mungkin tidak. Mungkin ya. Tapi waktu, tempat, dan situasi, tidak lagi bisa berjalan berdampingan. Mereka bertiga hanya bisa berjalan bersama, sekali saja.

Tidak ada yang tahu berapa banyak momen yang akan saya punya dengan anda. Ya, anda, anda, anda... semua dari anda. Jumlah momen tersebut sifatnya rahasia, entah berapa banyak momen yang tersisa, setiap satu demi satu momen terjadi.

Memikirkannya saja, terkadang membuat saya berpikir bahwa ini tidak adil.

Andai saya bisa menentukan jumlah momen yang saya punya.

Apakah anda juga berpikir demikian?

Cherish every moment with your loved ones. You don't have forever.